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  • Focus On the Good

    by Delaney Ray | Feb 28, 2017
    <p><img src="/images/default-source/default-album/stressrelief.jpg?sfvrsn=e638bb62_0&amp;MaxWidth=600&amp;MaxHeight=&amp;ScaleUp=false&amp;Quality=High&amp;Method=ResizeFitToAreaArguments&amp;Signature=AF951D251C790E897E5B14406CEB2605ADD9DD00" data-method="ResizeFitToAreaArguments" data-customsizemethodproperties="{'MaxWidth':'600','MaxHeight':'','ScaleUp':false,'Quality':'High'}" data-displaymode="Custom" alt="FocusOntheGood" title="FocusOntheGood" style="vertical-align: middle;" /><br /> I have struggled with anxiety for a long time and it always seems to just get worse. For years, I have worked hard to try to lessen my stress and anxiety by seeing a counselor for a while, constantly staying busy, and finally being placed on non-habit forming medication. College is one of the most stressful times of a person&rsquo;s life and I know that many of you agree. We worry about our classes, jobs, money, clubs, activities, and futures, that&rsquo;s a lot to think about on a daily basis. So I have compiled a list of things to help us with our stress and anxiety. Some of these I have tried or come up with on my own, and some I have researched in times of struggle:</p> <ul> <li>Try Yoga &ndash; Yoga is known to be a hugely calming activity. And I know some of you are probably thinking that it is silly or so overrated, and I don&rsquo;t know how you feel, but I am willing to try just about anything. There are lots of moves specifically for stress and anxiety (or to help you sleep if you have trouble with that as well) and I think it would make a large difference even if you just did 10-20 minutes a day.</li> <li>Eat Healthy &ndash; This one is probably the hardest for me (I love pizza and dessert just as much as the next guy), but it apparently makes a HUGE difference. Now, I&rsquo;m not saying that you can&rsquo;t still enjoy your French fries and Twinkies, just add some fruit and veggies in there as well, especially at the beginning of the day.</li> <li>Listen to Calming Music &ndash; Listening to calming, slow-paced music, even for just 5-10 minutes a day can help immensely. You can listen in the car, on your walk to class, or when taking a quick break from life and sitting on your bed with headphones. You can also search for listening activities like mindfulness or other things, usually lasting about 5-20 minutes, that go through a calming routine with you with lots of deep breathing.</li> <li>Focus on the Good &ndash; I personally believe this one may be the most important. When I have high levels of anxiety, I start to pile on everything and think that everything is bad and falling apart. I constantly think of the worst possible situation. However, the one thing I have found that always brings me back to the real world is when I start to list all the good things. Sometimes I write them down and sometimes I just repeat them over and over in my head. List everything, take nothing for granted. I try to make a short list now almost every day of five things I am happy and grateful for that day. Most of the time, the five things are very small, but taken for granted things like: my ability to walk, I arrived at school safely today, I have a dog, I am not sick, I have a family who loves me. Focusing on the good can also include making lists of things that make you happy like sunshine, pies, chocolate, the feeling of a breeze on a hot day, daisies, basset hounds, and hugs. Focus on the good, and be happy.</li> </ul> <p>Love, a fellow stressed out college student</p> <img src="/images/default-source/social-media-and-official-blogs/delaneyray088ad1922d02625b9ff6ff0000763cab.jpg?sfvrsn=da88b362_0" data-displaymode="Original" alt="DelaneyRay" title="DelaneyRay" /><br /> <p><em>Delaney Ray '19 is a Psychology and Sociology double major with a minor in Criminal Justice. She works as a Student Orientation Leader and a Library Desk Assistant in addition to blogging for MU. She never thought she would be a blogger, and her dream job is to work for the FBI in the behavioral unit.</em></p>